Child bullying usually comes from those children who want to feel superior by intimidating other children. They usually bully the kids who may be introverted, physically or mentally weaker, etc.
Parents may have a vague idea about ‘child bullying,’ but that’s not enough to handle their kids who’re victims of this underage phenomenon.
A child who prefers living an ordinary life, or precisely, tries to stand out from the crowd, gets bullied easily. Accepting someone different is a difficult task, and such trait grows from childhood. Most other kids deal with those loner kids rudely, hence, developing child bullying.
Constant bullying turns the victim colorless. It’s something that breaks them into pieces.
Children often don’t share if they are being bullied. But you must know the ways to understand if your child is a victim of bullying.
You have to handle your little one because it’s about his/her physical and mental health; it’s also about their future. Being a responsible parent, you must observe the signs to make out if your child needs your help.
Let’s find out those visible as well as latent child bullying signs that follow down below.
1. Your Child Has No Friends
If your child doesn’t have any friends, it can be a sign that he/she’s being bullied lately.
When a child faces bullying, it doesn’t feel like making friends anymore due to losing trust in companies. It’s like, if someone approaches him/her, probably, it intends to tease or abuse.
Worse, your child may start thinking of him/herself as unworthy of friendships.
What Can A Parent Do About It?
As a parent, help your child to make new friends. If you think your kid’s a little shy, find one of your neighbor or your friend’s kids and try to make them friends.
- You can throw a party at your house. Invite your friends with their kids. Please help them to get along. Once your child becomes comfortable with those kids, probably, he/she will want them as a friend.
- Try to encourage your child befriending kids other than the bullies at school, playground, or in the alley. Make him/her realize that not every other kid carries the same trait of abusing.
2. Your Child Has No Interest in Attending School
A school is a place where some kids go happily, but some literally hate it.
You realize that attending class isn’t always fun, but recess and after-school are cheering times for kids.
Does your kid play any game during recess? Does he/she stay with friends after class? Do you often hear your child talk about what happened in school? If no, there’s something amiss with your child’s daily schooling.
To be wiser, you should visit your child sometimes in his/her school. Most kids hate this, but you can always make some believable excuses to show up.
You can observe your kid’s surroundings from a distance when he/she’s in school. Examine what’s going on. See if anyone’s making fun of your kid, or he/she’s just sitting alone somewhere without participating.
What to Do When Something’s Wrong?
Children face bullying for many reasons. It will help if you find the leading cause of his/her bullying.
Once you know the root cause, you need to help him work on it. First, you need to ask your child indirectly what he/she thinks about the situation. Make sure you don’t impose anything on him/her. Sound calm and friendly.
Let me help you to understand better. Suppose some naughty kids are bullying your child because your child is a nerd.
Ask your kid how he/she would feel about being one of the brightest students in his/her classroom.
Your kid may sound sad while explaining. Dig a little more. The more you know, the better help you can offer your kid.
You may feel there’s no solution to his/her problem. What should you do then?
You have to listen to what your child has to say about his/her feelings. Mostly, sharing their insecurities helps them build strength. You can suggest your kid be witty or spontaneous.
Or, at best, make him/her realize how proud you are about him/her!
3. Your Child Doesn’t Feel Like Talking or Doing Any Fun Activities
Bullying makes a child downhearted inside out while it may ruin his/her childhood. Don’t let this happen to your child!
You may notice your child has changed a lot lately. He seldom laughs, plays video games, messes around the pet, or anything that defines your kid. What he/she does mostly is being silent and sullen.
If that’s the case, it’s alarming.
What Should You Do?
- Don’t let him/her stay alone. Plan a road trip, a picnic, or a fun family get-together. Increase family engagement among yourselves!
- Create new memories for your kid. Help him/her get away from any bad memories. Keep him busy and active.
- Make sure your kid isn’t overthinking about past incidents related to school or local bullies.
If you succeed, you may achieve two results. One, your kid will learn how to let it go. Two, he’ll become strong enough to make his/her life better and happier.
Stick to your goal. Repeat your resolutions in between intervals until you see the positive changes in your kid.
4. Your Child Is Becoming Short-Tempered
If a child experiences bullying always, it’s hard for him to accept and maintain daily tasks. Everyone has temper issues, even your young one. And like adults, kids have their way to express or suppress it.
Children mostly keep their experiences of being bullied to themselves! Naturally, these experiences turn to emotional conflicts and spurt out somehow over something. You may see those expressions as rudeness, or sometimes, as tantrums.
Some kids choose to show their emotions through temper over silly things, making them cranky and annoying kids.
You know your child more than anyone else. If you see any unusual changes in him/her, you better be observant and act promptly if needed.
What to Do?
- If you notice your child is getting short-tempered more often, you shouldn’t react. Let it go and wait for your kid to calm down.
- Have a little chit-chat about what happened. Make your child realize that you understand his/her conflicts. Besides, let him/her know how it hurt you. And then ask he/she wants to talk about it or not.
- Don’t force if your child doesn’t want to talk about it. Whenever your kid’s losing temper, stay calm. But raise your voice when the water’s going above the head, just to let him/her realize there’s a limit.
If your kid finds you empathizing, or at least reacting, he/she will probably share the feelings that are bothering.
Remember, kids aren’t able to appropriately explain everything in words, so be his/her moderator, as well as being a keen listener.
Once you reveal the problem, you can act against it.
5. Your Child Gets Nervous Around Specific Kids
Had this ever happened to your kid? You and your child went shopping, and your child behaves weird suddenly?
Your kid was happy until seeing someone. If the same reaction of your kid persists on similar occasions, investigate tactfully. Who knows, probably, these are the kids who’re bullying your child all along.
Ask your kid about them. If he/she babbles or decides to stay mute, then there’s something fishy.
What to Do?
- You can ask your child’s buddies about those uninvited
- If the above inquiry doesn’t work, find some other ways to get to the root of your kid’s odd behavior.
- It may sound complicated, but investigating those intimidating kids may be a good idea, like their residence, guardians, daily activities, etc.
- If you find them guilty, talk to their parents or local guardians immediately. If they’re from a school, raise the issue to the principal.
- Advise your child to stay away from those kids and control his/her emotional outburst whenever in such situations.
You can talk with his/her teacher about him. Mind that you’re trying to help your kid, so try not to cause another problem. Try to handle the situation smartly. Otherwise, it may make things worse!
6. Your Kid Is Feeling Insecure Because of Bullying
Your child may be a little shy when he/she is attending any social event. If your child is feeling insecure, it’s not normal.
Please, don’t mix up shyness and insecurity. When your child is attending a party, watch his/her actions, and ask yourself some questions:
- Is my child comfortable?
- Is he/she shy or insecure?
- Is he/she enjoying, or does he/she want to leave?
Try to find out answers to the above questions. Kids who’re victims of bullying tend to avoid the crowd or even other kids of their ages.
Make your child, your best friend. Give your best to know your birdie well. Make your son the man of your life, or your daughter, the precious queen of yours!
Try to be with him/her as much as possible if there’s a hint of bullying. If someone of your kid’s age tries to interact with him/her, create confidence about that new kid so that yours can make a new friend too.
Make your child feel that he/she doesn’t need anyone else when you’re around, mostly when he/she’s refraining from making new friends! Your kid will start to feel safe gradually.
7. Your Kid Has Frequent Nightmares
As an adult, the nightmare may or may not affect you as it does to a kid. We can accept the fact that it’s just a nightmare. Letting it go is easy for us.
If your kid’s having nightmares, it’ll affect him/her badly! They’ll panic as well as get upset.
Nightmare is something you can’t stop, but you may control the reason behind it to an extent.
Maybe something is happening in your child’s life that’s haunting him/her. Perhaps something or someone’s frightening them! Remember, constant bullying may engrave in a child’s subconscious mind, which comes around in dreams as nightmares.
Kids usually share nightmarish problems with their parents soon after they had one. Handle this problem with care. Don’t just say anything to divert his/her mind.
Ask in detail about what he/she saw while dreaming, or what particularly was the scariest thing in that dream?
When your child’s seeking help from you regarding his/her dreams, you should respond. Let him/her know there could be a reason behind the nightmares. Ask whether something or someone was bothering him/her at school, playground, streets, or even in the family.
Once your child comprehends your questions, he/she may open up and share everything. Such parent-child counseling is useful in determining even the most sublime struggles in children.
What to Do?
- For now, you can make your child feel good before he/she is going to bed. Good memories before sleeping will help your kid to have a peaceful sleep.
It’s something that’ll work temporarily. It will reduce the number of nightmares, but it won’t solve your child’s bullying issue.
- You can take the help of a counselor or a child psychologist to solve your child’s problem. They’ll guide you with instructions on what or what not to do.
8. Your Kid’s Grades aren’t Improving
If things aren’t going right in a child’s life, he/she will start losing the motivation to study. Many studies say that victims of bullying get terrible at mathematics. Some have an overall impact academically.
What to Do When Your Child’s Grade Is Falling?
You need to talk to your child about it. Ask him why his grade is falling? Don’t ask him/her in such a way that he/she starts to think that you’re putting pressure on him/her.
Ask your child in a way that he/she feels that you care. You should help your child in the study. If you can’t, then set a guideline for your kid.
What to Do When Your Child’s Academic Performance Falls for Being Bullied?
School is one of the commonest grounds where children become the victim of bullying. You can’t stop it directly, so you need to find an alternative way for it!
You can take the help of your child’s school teacher. A teacher always cares about a student and his/her academic performance.
If you can show your child’s school teacher that his/her grade is falling, the teacher will take strict action against it.
By this, your child could get rid of bullying and concentrate on his/her study.
9. Your Kid Has Stopped Doing Other Activities
If you’re noticing your kid’s stopped doing other activities such as playing, singing, dancing, and so on, he/she may be suffering due to bullying. Children like to attend those classes because they love it. When they are involved in different activities, they feel fresh and happy.
It’s not normal if they have stopped attending those classes or activities. It is a symbol that your child is carrying a sad soul!
What to Do?
Ask your child about the extra-curriculum class he/she attends. Ask him/her in detail. Ask your kid to show what he/she has learned.
You can help your kid to practice it at home. Be your kid’s partner in that.
Encourage your child in her dance. Dance with her and create beautiful moments. Try to remind her of happy days. Try to regain her love for dance.
10. Your Kid’s Got Unexplained Injuries
This part is sad, but it happened a lot when a child is being bullied. If our dearest child gets hurt, it hurt us as well!
Have you ever noticed an unexplained injury of your kid’s body? Did you ever feel that he/she is making excuses which not acceptable? Or he/she is not talking about the injury at all!
It is also a sign that your kid is suffering from bullying. Mostly it happens when he/she is soft and innocent. Innocence is such beauty within a child. If they face any problem just because they are innocent, this is not something we can accept!
What to do?
You should let him/her join in karate. He/she needs to fight back! If he/she fights back, then these unexplained injuries will be gone forever!
It’s one kind of human nature. We try to hurt those who are weaker than us! Allow him/her to be strong and fight for his/her right.
If your child is dependent, you need to teach him how to be independent! You are there for your child. Can you be with him/her every moment? No, it’s not possible.
Allow him/her to be independent. It may hurt you for a while, or you may think you’re a terrible parent. You need to know that you’re just helping your kid to go.
Also, you’re teaching him/her or making him/her healthy enough so that your kid can protest against cruelty.
11. There Is A Sudden Change in Your Child’s Personality
Your child used to be funny, charming, and happy. Suddenly your child has changed! He/she is now quiet and sad. That’s not acceptable to a loving parent, right?
Your child’s going through something. Perhaps something has happened in his/her school that’s made him feel low.
What to Do When There’s A Negative Change in Your Child’s Personality?
Change is useful and easy to accept in a child when it’s positive. But it’s concerning when there’re negative changes as your child’s growing.
We don’t want our kids to remain desolate.
- Talk with your kid more and more.
- Comfort him/her when he/she’s trying to speak with you. Don’t interrupt your kid when they’re sharing their stories. All you need to do is listen! Listen carefully and lovingly.
- If you think your kid’s wrong, then don’t let him know right away! Take some time. Let him/her take it out and relax.
- After a while, if you believe your child’s ready, let him/her know the mistakes. Encourage to fix things in a friendly manner. Don’t rush. Sensitive issues take time to get fixed.
12. Your Kid Is Adapting to Unusual Activities Lately
Childs who face bullying can act in different ways. Some kids accept it and let it go immediately while others try to deny the fact and develop an inner conflict.
If a kid tries to deny the fact, his/her nature and behavior change. You may notice him/her:
- engaging in physical activities such as outdoor games, exercises, bicycling, etc.
- taking part in creative activities such as acting, singing, art, etc.
- trying to act smarter in his/her talks, clothing, manners, etc.
These are good things as long as they’re keeping him/her from being upset or not hurting others.
What to Do?
You shouldn’t stop your kid from his/her new resolutions. Support and encourage him/her. In fact, these changes may not last long.
Adapting to something unreal or opposite to your kid’s characteristics won’t keep him/her happy for long.
- Try to get him/her back to normal without even letting your kid know!
- If you believe the changes are somewhat good for your child in terms of study, playfulness, nature, etc., let him/her go on with it.
- Chalk out the bad impacts of your kid’s recent changes. Convince him/her to refrain from doing those things, returning to the old version.
Bullying is a common problem among kids. Bullying others or getting bullied by others– neither is good. A child must grow with healthy and positive memories to make their future better.
Every bullying has different stories. You have to be tricky to handle bullying. If your child is facing bullying and doesn’t know what to do, seek an expert’s opinion.
If you’ve solved any bullying issues lately, be it within your family, or in other capacities, then help other parents with your tips and tricks to stop child bullying.